In my family it was very important that I would have a professional career. My father often reminded me that I must never be dependent on anyone else. I was active in a family business, a school which our family had owned for generations. I earned my Bachelor Degree in School Psychology and did a specialty in Human Development and Neurological Organization.
Then I got married and had my first child. Due to my responsibilities at work I had to leave my baby boy in the house with a maid and before he was two I enrolled him in a nursery. That broke my heart. My second child, a baby girl, arrived premature and needed special care. I didn´t want to leave her in the care of others. That is when I became convinced by the Word and the Spirit that God was leading me to lay my job aside and devote myself to being a wife and mother. Many people, even in my closest circle, could not understand why I would leave such an “important” position to “take up a broom” and become a housewife. But I knew it was right, and I knew that the calling to be a mother was so much bigger than that.
I spent six years in my home. I built a strong relationship with my children. I taught them and learned with them. I cooked meals, nurtured bodies, washed, talked, listened, laughed and cried. These were the richest years of my life. From these years God has brought wonderful fruit.
Proverbs 14:1 says, “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” That rich verb “build” captures so much of what God designed the woman to be and to do. What a privilege to build a home!
“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”
God has a unique design, plan and purpose for each individual (Psalm 139, Eph 2:10). As the Divine Equipper of human workers, He carefully designed the home as the place for children to be instructed, nurtured, and guided for His plans and purposes to be fulfilled in earth.
The woman who chooses to be a homemaker arrives at a godly and wise decision. By this choice, she becomes a partner with God to fulfill His plans in the home. She is the “wise woman” who “builds her house.”
To build means “to edify, construct, make, cultivate, carve, form, bring out.” It implies action and willingness. The word in Hebrew for build is banah which means “make, pattern, plan.” A synonym is kun, which means “prepare, be ready, fix, establish.” In order to build, a woman must have a personal relationship with God. She must commune with Him, listening to His directions and following His steps. She builds with the Lord´s blessing; without Him it is impossible to build (Psalm 127:1).
A woman has multiple and diverse opportunities to build in her home. She is co-laboring with God to bring into existence what is already in His heart and mind. Through her love and care she is leading her children to the love of Christ.
She builds when she gets on her knees to pray by her childrens’ beds; when, alone in her house, she intercedes for each of them while they are away. She builds as she reads Bible stories at bedtime.
She builds as she respects and cares for her husband.
She builds as she prepares a meal, choosing the best groceries, planning a healthy and tasty menu, organizing an outdoor meal, cleaning the kitchen of germs, bacteria, and diseases.
She builds when she takes time to listen to her husband or children, when she hugs, when she runs and plays with them outside, or sits on the floor to share a table game on a rainy day.
She builds when she cleans her house and teaches her children to store their toys, when she does the laundry or sews their socks, when she sits up all night nursing them in their sickness.
She builds when she teaches them to enjoy and love creation, to respect and love one another. She builds when she creates opportunities to form Christ´s character in them.
When a woman makes the wise decision of becoming a homemaker, she builds God´s Kingdom in her house.
- Cristina Inchaustegui
Cristina Inchaustegui is a School Psychologist with a specialty in Functional Neurological Organization. She was born and raised in a family of educators. She has worked in education for more than 30 years, as a teacher, General Director, and School Psychologist. Recently she became Regional Director of the AMO® Program for Latin America and the Caribbean.
Cristina has been married for 28 years and has two children, Rafael Alfonso (26) and Lourdes Cristina (24). Her call is to listen and answer to the voice of God; her passion, to see a new generation raised to love and serve the Lord with a Biblical worldview; her conviction, that transformation for the nation begins in the home and at a school desk.